A Mother’s Letter to Her Daughter

May 11th, 2012 by @lamberts

Homecare Advocate Blog: A Mother's Letter to Her DaughterThe other day I received an e-mail in honor of Mother’s Day that really spoke to me about the relationship between an aging mother and her daughter.  It touches on many issues that our Homecare Advocate readers deal with as caregivers for an elderly person, and I wanted to share it with you.

Letter from a Mother to a Daughter:

“My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep. When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl? When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way… remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you. And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked. When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling daughter. “

If your mom is still here, be with her.  Love her.  Show her that you care.  If your mom has already passed, look with fondness on the good times you shared, the lessons she taught, and all of the ways she helped you become the person you are.

We wish you all a very happy Mother’s Day.


PS. In the big world of social media and e-mail forwards, it’s hard to find the original source.  To the best of my knowledge, it was originally submitted by Spring in the Air.

2 Responses to “A Mother’s Letter to Her Daughter”

May 11, 2012 at 11:17 am, Beth said:

This is beautiful. I also really like that I recognize some of the pictures at the top.


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